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4 tips to make your man want to die there

Happy Sunday readers, am sure all the girls want to read this eheh.

So, you think you found the perfect guy. Youre clicking on the emotional front, and now you want to leave a lasting impression in the bedroom too.
So whats the big secret? Its not all about knock- his-socks-off sex. When it comes to keeping a guys interest, the way you approach sex can make all
the difference. So follow these four basic rules to keep him coming back for more.

1. Dont be a tease, but dont be a sure thing either
What many women — and men, for that matter — sometimes fail to realize is that theres a very fine line between being a tease and being playful. If you deny him gratification too often or for too long, hell probably lose interest and begin to build resentment. While there should never be an expectation of sex, once that expectation has been created, its very difficult to remove it without creating serious tension.

On the flip side, while men are inherently lazy and do love a sure thing, you also dont want us to take you for granted. Plus, if youre always available to satisfy him, hell think youre no longer a challenge (and most men love a challenge). So if you can turn down a booty call every now and then, or say no to sex sometimes when youre not really up for it, hes actually going to want to see you more and make more effort.
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2. Make him a believer, but dont oversell it
Heres something that isnt exactly a secret: Men all like to think that theyre "the man." So, you need to make him feel like hes doing something right. I cant stress enough the importance of playing to the male ego and placating his inevitable insecurities about penis size, stamina and the ability to bring you to orgasm. So if youre not fully satisfied, dont simply fake it for his sake; instead, communicate to him about what is working and praise him for the things he does do well. When a man feels consistently insecure about his ability to please his partner, he may get the urge to duck and run. A sincere compliment here and there will keep him focused on doing better by you in bed, instead of finding someone whos easier to please.


3.  Under-promise,  over-deliver
As far as the bedroom is concerned, avoid creating false expectations at all costs. For example, no guy wants to hear about how great you are at giving fellatio if youre not going to perform it on him. And if you promise to "rock his world" and then dont? Well, youre setting him up for disappointment. Its
good to be confident, but the less you promise, the less expectation you create and the more pleasant a surprise you can be for him. And when youre a pleasant surprise, theres usually going to be an encore performance; hell want to see what else you have in your bag of tricks.

4. Desire is key
Most women think great sex is all about the performance. Now, dont get me wrong — if youre really great at something and enjoy doing it, by all means, go right ahead. But its important to remember that simply expressing a desire for your guy makes a man feel sexually powerful, and making him feel wanted will make him want you even more. So dont forget to let him know how badly you want him in as much detail as you feel comfortable with. It will be a big turn-on for him, even if you arent the most experienced or skilled at any particular act.

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4 Reasons Why YOU Dont want to Touch Social Learning with a Barge Pole

So, you recently read Jane Bozarths Social Learning for Trainers and followed it up with a read of Enterprise 2.0 by McAfee and The New Social Learning by Conner and Bingham. Youre excited by the promise of social software for learning. Youre already a Facebook and Twitter junkie and life couldnt be better with vendors announcing "Facebook for the enterprise". Wow! Youre going to be a hot-shot social learning pro, arent you? Errrm... think again. Life as a social learning consultant isnt a bed of roses and while the glamour of the Scobels, Hinchliffes, Ghoshes, Schrecks and others is inviting, youre likely to have a rough road ahead. Behind the glitz and glamour is a tough, painstaking albeit eventually fulfilling job, which you absolutely need to know about. So, before you get charmed into this shiny new world read my little disclaimer - it aint easy!

Its Not Really Facebook for the Enterprise
Ok, ok I know you love Facebook and I know Jane says you could potentially use established tools like Facebook and Twitter for learning. Jane is right, I must say and I personally believe that the most mature social business implementations need to have porous walls. With that said, I have to also note that were just not there yet! And frankly, theres perhaps a middle ground we need whichll just take some time. In the mean time, while you revel in the glory of Facebook, your employers need single sign on, integration with other systems, security, governance, uptime guarantees, content ownership assurances, and what not. Ah! That doesnt seem as cool anymore, does it? If youre heading the social learning route, remember that showing off the success of #lrnchat or the Learning and Skills Group is just the first step.

Youll be a Consultant with No Direct Control Ever heard of organisational politics? Its the bad phrase to describe the tension between innovation, internal systems and organisational structure. Once youve gone ahead and wowed YOUR boss with that demo of #lrnchat or or that matter your own PKM approach powered by social media, you should really have a free rein. Or should you? Well if youre championing the cause of collaborative learning in the enterprise, you cant do it alone. You need to get IT to buy into supporting you. Youll need to get leadership to champion your proposal, and to do that, youll need to champion some of their goals. As it turns out, none of them are your puppets - so getting the organisational machinery to start working in the same direction can mean several emails, presentations, meetings, arguments and consultative discussions. Forget about your role as an instructional designer - youre now only a consultant. You have no direct control. Hell, you cant even control behaviours for your learners. At least in the classroom you could set a few rules for participation. Now you need to model their exisiting collaborative behaviours onto your system. Youll often feel that "Click Next to Continue" in elearning or "Lets move to the next exercise." in the classroom gave you more power. Are you happy to live with that for some time?

Its Not the Kool-Aid Youve been Drinking
So, youre happy to rough it out - after all theres the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow! I guarantee you, there is one, but its far, far away. Before you can get to the wonderful effects that youve only read about it blogs, youll need to do heaps of hard work. As a start, you may need to create dozens of proofs of concepts for the scores of teams in your organisation. Its not just about getting the executives involved, people are at the center of social business. Be prepared to sit at your desk for hours uploading files, setting up wikis, creating discussion areas and helping people wrap their heads around emergent collaboration. Be prepared to get laughed at and to take the feedback, go back, work and come back more resilient. Even when your community starts to thrive, things wont just happen by magic. Theres a lot of unglamourous work involved in community management, Im afraid. Take a look at what Donald Taylor does for the Learning and Skills Group and what Tom, Dave and Jeanette do for the Articulate community. In fact, with all the content curation, one-on-one support, online facilitation and constant manual gardening that Dave Anderson does, I wonder when he sleeps. Its effective, its useful and it comes from a genuine desire to help people. It may end up being glitzy and glamourous, but dont count on it.

Youve Got To Build Comfort with "Good Enough"
As an elearning pro and even as a trainer, you would have fussed hours, days, weeks and months to get things just right. After all, that slide needs to look polished. That activity needs to be instructionally sound. That elusive goal of perfection keeps you going everyday. Social learning has its own levels of perfection, but that perfection doesnt come from the quality of content. A badly formatted, abrupt, but contextualised answer is good enough for a social QnA environment. Its not pretty, nor is it the most awesome content - its just effective and works. It takes great patience to keep looking at gigabytes of user generated content that may not be as good as what you could have created but is so contextualised, that its far more effective. In social business, perfection comes from being an integral part of the way we work. Perfection is when information flows seamlessly across the internet and the intranet, and people can consume byte-sized content when they want to, where they want to. Its perfection all right, but of a different kind.

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If youve read this far, you probably see my point - being a social learning pro involves a lot of hard work. Its immensely fulfilling; after a while a lot more than just doing instructional design or training. Be prepared however, to take the long, hard road there. Put your heads down, think big, start small and keep iterating. And when you really start to deliver value, which could be sometime away, the accolades may come too. I guess its just a question of being patient. Thats just my two cents - what do you think?

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